Q: I just love how my Fusion Playdates are going where my guy totally submits to me! I feel so empowered knowing I am bringing the Feminine Principle into the world! – Chelsea B
A: You are pitch perfect Chelsea. Fusion Play is like having your own key to the private loft of the male mind of perception & behavior where you can go in rearrange the interior to your personal taste. Mmmm!
Q: I’M HOPING TO GIVE A MALE PERSPECTIVE HERE. I really like how Fusion has brought together all these different kinds of sexual play I enjoy. You didn’t mention anything about perfume; isn’t smell is one of the senses to be involved? I would much prefer a woman’s thick, smothering perfume over scented candles and spa music for my Fusion play. What are some of your reader’s favorite perfumes that would work? Thank you. – Jared D
A: Great observation Jared! This is where Fusion departs from traditional Tantric massage; same keen awareness of sexual energy, but Fusion uses most all of the senses in provoking erotic male energy that is used to elicit total surrender of the man to a woman’s benign feminine dominance.
Similarly, the music choice for Fusion Play shouldn’t be “relaxing” in the conventional way which is another departure from traditional sensual massage, but it shouldn’t be agitating either. Your music should first give the woman a sense of power and control and secondarily provoke sexual energy in the man that in combination with your Red Lipstick Tease and Sensual Touch will become your own style of erotic waterboarding ultimately resulting in his surrender to you. We want to use all of the senses to overwhelm our partners.
Let’s get Jared some perfume options he can gift his partner with!
Q: CAN YOU TALK MORE ABOUT HOW THE RED LIPSTICK TEASE WORKS? -Simone D
A. Sure. A woman’s luscious red lips are like the matador’s red cape. The bull cannot help himself than to be fixated and charge. Likewise, men are hard wired in their brains to become fixated and compelled by a woman’s red lips, which, if you know how to use this phenomenon through your erotic provocation, creates an opening for your influence and control.
Q: CAN YOU EXPLAIN HOW FUSION IS AN EFFECTIVE MEANS FOR ADVANCING WOMEN’S ISSUES? – ANNA K
A: Yes. Fusion asserts a woman’s right to use her native language of female sensuality and eroticism to evoke change in the world. Leaps in confidence occur when women allow themselves to feel the power that can be tapped from the reservoir of female sensuality. This could be a gesture as simple as wearing red lipstick, but it goes deeper than outward appearances. Fusion Play is the Heels on the ground, face-to face-asserting of the feminine in relationship with men.
The refuge of many men is their mind. It is where they seek shelter and is an easily defended place filled with endless talk, reasons and possible diversions—be it in an intimate relationship or when conducting a Senate confirmation hearing!
Women have at their disposal a “tool” that cuts through all of that. They should no longer be shy to use the home court advantage of the emotional-sexual domain where men are most vulnerable and unable to resort to reasoning. It’s almost not fair! Women have been suppressed and denied from using that beautiful, enticing and powerful language throughout history. It is time for women to decide how they want to run the world and Fusion gives them the advantage.
Q: WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FUSION AND BDSM AND FEM-DOM? – REBECCA S
A: As the name Fusion implies, it is a fusion of other genres of adult play. For example, Fusion makes use of restraints to enforce the requirement for the man to surrender to the influence of the woman. Where it departs from BDSM is that Fusion uses the brain chemistry and emotions of pleasure rather than pain. The quote “I’m not like other people, I can’t handle pain, it hurts me!” characterizes what many people feel. Similarly, Fusion is a departure from how Fem-dom is often practiced in that Fusion is not punitive and doesn’t seek to humiliate or degrade men. Fusion respects who men are and uses all of its components to do a little tweaking to the male mind into yielding, respecting and surrendering to the feminine influence.
This Play with Purpose could have a profound and far reaching impact too multifaceted to elaborate with this single answer. But stay tuned!
Q: WHAT ROLE DOES FUSION PLAY REGARDING OBJECTIFYING WOMEN? – BIANCA C
A: Great question. Glam and MakeUp are not to blame; it’s the “catch me if you can game.” The sexual objectification of women is wrong and must be corrected at every turn because it leads to the violation of boundaries and the notion for men that “you can do whatever you want.” Instead of using beauty and makeup to merely entice men to pursue women (you never run from a predator, right?), glam should be used to stand your ground and assert your confidence!
If you’re going to teach a young woman what glam and makeup is about, you also need to teach the why behind it and how to use it to empower herself and therefore all women in a positive way.